When God Plans to Let Your Loved One Pass Away

My mom was 30 when I entered this world. I was 30 when she left it. Today is the anniversary of that day and it’s a hard one to be reminded of.
 
The picture above is one of the last times we enjoyed with mom before the symptoms of her sickness started. As happy as she is in this picture, it’s harrowing to realize all that was ahead for her. She was in a body that was about to start breaking down. And we had no idea our time left with her would be so short.
 
But in this moment, God knew all that was ahead. He knew the distress we were about live in seeing mom’s abilities deteriorate. He foresaw our desperate search for a diagnosis and then our traumatic defeat learning there was no cure. He knew our hearts were about to ache for years on end and that our faith would struggle to see still Him as good. 
 

In this moment, God also knew how He’d comfort every shard of our soul-piercing pain.

He knew what resources mom would need and how He’d provide them. The donations were already lined out. The caregivers were already handpicked. He knew which people He’d motivate to come visit and what friendships He’d renew when they were needed most.

For our family, He had already planned out how He’d equip our hearts to endure a marathon of grief. He saw what Scripture we’d need to read in our devotions and what sermons we’d need to hear from our pastors. He’d already prepared How He’d inspire us to pray and how He’d answer.

He had loving designed every tender memory we’d share with mom from this day forward and even scripted out her final moments with us, which ended up being more inspiring than Shakespeare.

He knew how He’d express His love and how we’d encounter His grace.

In this picture’s tiny moment, God not only knew how He’d get us through our upcoming suffering, He knew why He was going to allow it. We’ve experienced the former and we still wrestle with the latter.

We wish we had five more years of pictures like this one. We wonder how God, in His unmeasurable love, decided it was best to let this be our last untainted memory with mom. But just as God proved Himself faithful throughout mom’s sickness, we fully believe He has proved Himself good even though we don’t understand the entirety of His plan.

For now, I am grateful I can look back on 30 years of memories with mom. And although the last few years were more painful than pleasant, I’m so thankful they were full of evidence of God’s care and His lavish comfort.

Now today, in this tiny moment, whatever trials I have ahead of me, I’m confident God has His plans in place. And come what may, I trust those plans are good.

2 Corinthians 1:3-4
Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of mercies and God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our affliction, so that we may be able to comfort those who are in any affliction, with the comfort with which we ourselves are comforted by God.
Jeremiah 29:11
For I know the plans I have for you, declares the LORD, plans for welfare and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope.